COMMUNITY RULES
How we treat each other here
Seven rules, no legal language. If you've ever been in a good book club, you already know most of them.
Rule 1
Women 55 and over, on your honor
That's the whole door policy. Every member confirms she is a woman 55 or older when she joins. We take you at your word - and we remove anyone who wasn't honest about it.
Rule 2
Platonic, always
No romance, no flirting, no matchmaking on anyone's behalf. This is friendship, and that's not a limitation - it's the point.
Rule 3
No selling of any kind
No fundraising, no multi-level anything, no promoting a business in the rooms or in letters.
Rule 4
Disagree freely, be unkind never
Argue about books, politics, casseroles. Be cruel to another member once and you'll hear from us.
Rule 5
Money stays out of it
Never send money, gift cards, or bank details to another member, however long you've been writing. Nobody here will ever have a good reason to ask.
Rule 6
What's said in the private rooms stays there
Caregiving and Starting Over are closed-door conversations. Repeating them elsewhere ends a membership.
Rule 7
Every room is looked after
We keep an eye on every room for anything unkind or inappropriate, and we answer reports within one business day.
A note on kindness and letters
What happens if I write, but no one writes back?
Don't worry - it happens, and it isn't personal. It's very possible she just didn't see it come through her email. The porch light is still on.
If you did read a letter and haven't yet responded, please be sure to write back - even a short note to say you're busy right now, or that your porch light is off for a little while. A small reply keeps the friendship warm.